I figured it was high time to answer some of those burning questions about the current stage of life, end of the pregnancy and being a mom of three little guys. I get a variety of questions all the time but these are the most frequent ones lately (or some version of these). This is not the world’s most exciting post. You will need coffee. Perhaps an industrial sized fan or Metallica on the highest possible volume. Try not to fall asleep…I’m pretty sure you aren’t allowed to do that at work 🙂 (see what I did there with the irony?)
Ok here we go…
How was the entire pregnancy as compared to the other boys? Were your symptoms different?
The pregnancy was pretty awesome. I didn’t vomit once from morning sickness and although I did get a lot of heartburn and experienced the worst cold of my life (not exaggerating – I coughed so hard I peed myself for a solid month), it was the easiest pregnancy for me so far. I gained less weight overall (only 43 lbs vs 60-65lbs) and had only moderate swelling (vs extreme edema with the other two). I did get more stretch marks this time on the belly (before I had them only on my waist above my hips) and had sciatica pain at the very very end that was immediately relieved after delivery. You can read more about my other symptoms on this post.
Are you gonna write LJ’s birth story like you did with the other two boys?
Yes! I have already started it and am currently trying to sensationalize it with an emergency of some sort, perhaps someone bursting into the room yelling fire, or some sort of animal stampede or national emergency. Haven’t decided 🙂 No seriously though…I have started writing it and it still needs some tweaking and of course, I need to go through the hundreds of photos to add those in. And that takes a lot of time for me because I get all weepy which makes photo editing – which requires my eyes – a little difficult. And no…it won’t be six chapters long…I have three kids now and nobody has time for all those details 🙂 If you want to read Will’s birth story – click here. If you want to read Weston’s birth story – click here.
Did you have another VBAC?
I did and it was very successful. It was actually the most boring of my deliveries so far – which is in my opinion the best kind 🙂 My doctor is Dr. Joseph Tate and he is a very big supporter of VBACs and he did let me go 42 weeks and then we induced. I like to say that I had a TBAC (Tate Birth After Caesarean) because he is a very unique individual and his methods are sometimes a little quirky but Jeremy and I ADORE him and his staff and hope that our future kids will be TBACs too 🙂
What is harder – a C-section or a vaginal birth?
I think it totally varies. Just like every pregnancy and just like every kid, each delivery is different. If I absolutely had to choose, I would definitely choose doing a vaginal birth because of certain reasons that perhaps only pertain to my situation….one being that I didn’t get to hold Will (c section) until almost an hour after he was born. We had very little skin to skin time until the next day. And those first two weeks I was on medication that made everything blurry and hard to remember. As you can imagine, not being able to recall those finer details of my first born’s first two weeks of life is a little hard emotionally.
When it comes to physical stuff, both are redonkulous hard. I remember after Weston was born (1st VBAC with a fractured tailbone and a serious tear), I got mad. I felt like everyone lied to me and said a vaginal birth was easier and I just wanted to taser people’s crotches so they could feel my pain in a very non-figurative way. Now that I had LJ (2nd VBAC with one little stitch), I know what people meant by easy birth even though he was practically the same size. We did an HOUR of skin to skin in the hospital before they even weighed the kid. It just seems like there are no promises and no guarantees in that labor and delivery room.
How is breastfeeding going?
Breastfeeding is going great! With Will we had a really hard time that I blogged about (later we learned that it was due to a posterior tongue tie – you can read more about our experience with frenulums here) and with Weston, it was ridiculously easy. I compared the experiences and the second time around the boobie-block was one of the most redemptive experiences of my life. This time I knew the moment I saw LJ’s tongue that he had a tie (the tip of his tongue has a little heart shape) and so we had it assessed by the ENT folks and they called in their specialist who clipped it in the hospital when he was a day old. It was very anterior (which means it goes almost all the way to the tip of his tongue) and even though we were still in that sleepy/barely eating stage, I could tell a difference right away. Best decision ever.
When are you gonna do a nursery for LJ?
Well, geesh…if my track record proves anything….probably right before he moves out for college 🙂 We decided that we will probably start working on the nursery when Weston starts climbing out of his crib. We will probably transition him into a twin bed and have Will and Weston share a room…and then the baby will go in Weston’s nursery (which will get a makeover). That’s just a guess for now though…we are still trying to figure out the best way to use the rooms in this house 🙂
How are the boys adjusting to the new baby?
The big boys LOVE the baby…it’s actually really a big relief because I have heard some really hard transition stories. Will is very helpful and is always eager to hold LJ but Weston is like a rabid dog. All he can focus on is LJ. All he wants in his life is to touch, kiss, hold and wrestle the baby. And whenever we talk to Weston, we call LJ “his baby”. It’s a double edged sword because we adore the fact that Weston loves his baby brother…but we can’t put LJ in reaching or climbing distance because Weston will find a way….as he did here…
What is your most helpful tip to having three little boys?
Never divide. If we want to get things done around the house, we never divide the kids up. It’s better for one person to go completely insane with the three boys in tow and the other person to tackle a task. Otherwise, both of us are getting 10% done of our individual tasks while trying to keep everyone alive. We babywear A LOT more than we ever did before (I still love my Solly Baby Wrap and Jeremy prefers the Bjorn) and that is especially helpful when we go out shopping or running errands or when we are playing outside. The other tips are to utilize your freezer and crock pot more. My parents gave us their old freezer and it already is stocked up and when we are in a rush, its comforting knowing that we can throw a bag of barbeque chicken, some peas and a bag of rice in the microwave and have dinner ready in ten minutes flat. Lastly – let go of the mess stress. When you don’t worry about keeping the house or kids perfectly tidy or clean, things will get broken and go missing…you may look picture IMperfect 99% of the time…and toys will breed willy-nilly. But for me, I’ve found that I’m more patient and soft spoken and I spend more quality time with the boys…laughing and playing. I figure…the mess will always be here…but little ones grow up entirely too fast.
p.s. don’t forget – tomorrow is the PICTURE PARTY! Make sure you get your sleep photos ready and share them here tomorrow! Can’t wait to see them!