(this one may seem outta the blue…I wrote it A LONG time ago…and feel like maybe today is the day to be bold and hit publish.)
Let’s get real for a second, shall we?
Let’s talk about blogging. I know this post might stir the pot with some of you but I feel like it’s the elephant in the room. The very large elephant. The very large pink polkadotted elephant with the herd of elephants behind it ready to stampede me into the ground. And I feel like someone somewhere must say it.
SOMETIMES BLOGGIN SUCKS.
I said it. I said it and I mean it.
Let’s just speak the truth here for a minute. Everyone starts off their blog and looks forward to that very first comment. The one where you realize a perfect stranger (and they are literally perfect in every sense of that word to you at that moment) has read something that you wrote and then they took the time to click that “Leave a comment” link and then actually said something in reference to what you wrote. It’s pretty thrilling. Unbelievable actually. You almost die outta pure joy.
Then there comes the day that you reach your high number…whatever that may be. And the world is your oyster. Actually the world is an oyster that just spit out pearl necklaces and matching earrings and perhaps a brooch in your direction.
It happened to me. I remember the day I said “People online never say mean things. They are the nicest people in the world”. And I believed it too. I had just posted about a new pair of glasses. And took photos of my mug modeling them for all the world to see. I had this high. Like I was Heidi Klum. Heidi Klum married to Will Smith with David Beckham’s body and Matt McConaughey’s accent.
And then you keep chugging along…post after post…day after day…suddenly the blog seems like an obligation. like a chore. like a ferret on your shoulder chewing on your ear.
So you take a blogging break. It’s theraputic. It’s relaxing. It’s amazing. It was exactly the break you need. It happened to me. It was great.
Then your fire for writing has returned. You jump back on the bloggin’ band wagon. You write. You craft. You edit photos. You linky party. It seems to be okay for a while until it happens.
I know it’s wrong to talk about. THE COMMENTS. But let’s for a sec. Let’s tread in those dangerous waters. I am not talking about the comments from readers who generally leave positive or uplifting or supportive comments and then disagree with something. No. We aren’t talkin about that. I am talking about the comments from people out there that feel like this is some sort of political power struggle…they are one party and you the opposition. Or maybe they just feel like you should know how much you really suck. Or how you give Jesus a bad reputation. or how you are copying someone else. Or how your personality is too flat, or too big, or you try too hard or you don’t try hard enough. or how you look weird, or how you are too wordy or not wordy enough or how you are overexposing your kids or how your style is obviously not their style. or how this or that or that other thing. in the end, you just hear one thing: the slappin noise of the backhand across your face you just received via world wide web.
This also applies to community webpages where people feel the need to discuss the general suckiness of others. HELLO…we are ON the internet…you don’t think we see your incoming links that throw us into the abyss of cruel comments?!
To those people I would like to be bold. I would like to say…hello my dear sludgethrowers, hear me now and hear me well…yes, I muddy up the name of Jesus…he was perfect afterall…and I make mistakes….so it’s kinda hard not to suck compared to sinlessness. and yes, I love my kids…which is why I talk about them…on my blog….which is supposed to be my space to discuss the relevant things in my life…like my kids….and of course somewhere else you may see this same exact idea or renovation or craft…because there are 126 million blogs online and someone somewhere is bound to have covered this topic…and even if they haven’t, there is probably someone out there did ______(fill in the blank) in their own home and someone else saw it who told their sister or neighbor or whatever and now you had the same bright idea. In the end, isn’t this world just one big recycled idea anyway?! And yes, I know that it is fun to criticize me for putting myself out there in the limelight of my 100 readers…but isn’t it more sad that you feel the need to talk about me behind my back or directly to me (like you know me in real life) and ruin my day? And it does. People won’t say this because it “gives you power”…but it does RUIN our days. Your rude comments stay with us long after they escape your lips (or fastly typing fingers). They make us cry. They make us crawl into bed and cover our heads. They make us call our mothers. Is that what you want to be…a day ruiner?
And here’s another thing…you may think you know me…but I assure you, you do not. No matter what, everyone is different than how they write or act on a blog. It’s true. We bloggers have evolved to fit into this worldwideweblife. It’s survival of the fittest in here. And I am just a squirrel tryin to get a nut. Seriously. You could have a post that reveals the true you…but no one has every post that is a true 100% picture of how they act in or are in real life. For some, the internet makes writers brave. some energetic. some are more kind. some less. the point is…how well do you really know someone in the real world? now – how well do you really know someone that you only read about? finally – how well do you really know someone that you only read WHAT THEY WROTE about themselves? I think the answer here is simple. you don’t.
So if you don’t know someone…why do some people feel the compulsive need to bring them down?
I may have been homeschooled but now I realize that my mother did a very good thing. My highschool self-esteem would have never survived in this real world. Especially if the real world was anything like this online one.
In the end, my rant here is for one simple reason…it’s to let you know that what you say matters. It matters to me…and my family. It matters to those reading it. We are one big community here and we should really start acting like it. This day, I have a challenge for you (each and every one of you – positive and negative commenters/community boarders/general naysayers) – LOVE. Plain and simple. Not just the people that it is easy to love. BE KIND TO EVERYONE. Afterall, it’s not our servers that holds us together…it’s love. End. of. rant.